646: Why Most Coaches Stay Stuck and How To Think Like the Ones Who Don’t with Anmol Singh

So you’ve done the trainings and worked with mentors. You’ve got notebooks full of strategy, downloaded all the right templates, and bookmarked every business podcast. And still, things feel stuck.

What perhaps nobody has ever told you is that your problem isn’t strategy anymore. It’s execution.

You’re Not in a Learning Phase. You’re in a Loop.

If you’ve been “getting ready” for months (maybe even years), what you’re in isn’t preparation. It’s a learning loop.

The learning loop is where you keep collecting information, hoping the next piece will finally give you the confidence to move. It’s productive-looking procrastination. It feels noble. It feels busy. But deep down, you know … it’s just avoidance.

Execution Requires a Whole New Skill Set

Most of us were raised to follow instructions: at school, at work, in life. So when we leave the structure of jobs or traditional paths, we’re left asking, “Now what?”

Self-leadership is the missing skill most entrepreneurs never learn. You have to be the one who sets the plan and holds yourself to it. No boss, no team. Just you, your ideas, and your calendar.

And that’s where the breakdown happens. Not in desire, but in follow-through.

Self-Trust, The Real Confidence Builder

Confidence isn’t a mindset trick. It’s a byproduct of self-trust, and it’s built by doing what you said you’d do, especially when it’s uncomfortable, inconvenient, or not producing immediate results.

When you constantly delay, reschedule, or downgrade your own priorities, you chip away at that trust. And your brain starts to believe that your words don’t mean much.

The 6-Task Method That Actually Moves the Needle

I’ll share with you a system that shifts everything. Each night, write down six needle-moving tasks for the next day. Three for your business and another three for your life.

These shouldn’t be tasks you already do on autopilot. Pick the uncomfortable things, the bold things, the actions you keep avoiding but know will make a difference.

Then, time-block them into your calendar. By the time you wake up, your day is already in motion. No decision fatigue, no wasted willpower. Just execution.

Stop Waiting To Feel Ready

You don’t actually need more confidence to act. What you need is action to build that confidence.

Stop waiting for clarity or courage to show up before you move. Just start. Like an iPhone release, launch the messy version, learn from it, and improve fast.

The longer you wait to get it perfect, the longer you delay progress that could already be happening.

Lead Yourself Like a CEO

When stuff hits the fan (and it will!) it’s easy to spiral. But the key is to not stay in the story. Go straight to the solution.

Any time a challenge arises, ask yourself, “What are three possible ways I could solve this?”

If you lead a team, ask them to do the same before they bring problems to you. It’s a simple framework that quickly turns chaos into clarity.

Your Calendar Never Lies

Want to know what you really value? Don’t check your vision board. Check your calendar.

If your week is full of things that feel urgent but don’t actually drive your business forward, it’s time to re-prioritise. After all, success isn’t built in bursts of inspiration. It’s built in daily, disciplined, quiet action.

So no, you don’t need another masterclass. You just need to start doing the things you already know will move the needle.

The bottom line is, if you’re stuck, it’s probably not a knowledge gap. It’s a self-leadership gap. Close that, and everything changes.

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ABOUT ANMOL SINGH

Some might’ve called him a loser in high school and he’d take it a step further and admit he was a loser in the stock market too. That is, until he realised trading was more mental than anything else. That shift in perspective changed everything, and suddenly, the emotional rollercoaster of the stock market started to make sense.

He’s been riding that rollercoaster since he was 18 and still rides it every single day. The difference now? He’s learned to enjoy the ride—like a pro riding a bull. (Pun fully intended.)

Today, he helps others do the same. Not by gripping the seat in fear, but by mastering the market with battle-tested strategies—so they can enjoy the ride of their life.

WHERE TO FIND ANMOL SINGH

• Website: https://anmol.net/ 
• Website: https://livetraders.com/
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/anmolsc/ 
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TRANSCRIPTION

Samantha Riley  0:00  

Welcome to today’s episode. I’m super excited because today’s guest started trading at 18 years old with $10,000 and he quickly lost it all. So we’re going to talk about what it is that can make you get back on track when things aren’t going quite the way that you want, because whilst trading doesn’t have anything to do with building a business, it does have to do with mastering the game at a mental level. So Anmol, welcome to the show.

Anmol Singh  0:32  

Thanks for having me. Looking forward to chatting with you.

Samantha Riley  0:35  

Totally. Now, what you know when things aren’t going well financially, it affects your confidence. It can really hold you back from making decisions, you know, it can put you in that that people talk about, that flight or fight, but it can also really put you in a freeze. So I want to go back right to the very beginning. You started trading, 18 years old with $10,000 I’m guessing that $18,000 that was a real lot of money for you. How just share a little bit about that beginning journey and how you kept moving, because now you’ve got a trading business. You teach trading, so obviously you didn’t stay in that or you didn’t enter that freeze or flight?

Anmol Singh  1:24  

Yeah, I always, like, looked at trading very similar to, like, my childhood with, like, video games, right? So growing up, I was, like, an introvert, always spending time by myself or on the computer or playing games. So in trading, I had no idea what I was doing. Like, I, you know, borrowed some money from my parents. I said, Hey, I’m trying to start this new business thing. You know, this is what I’m gonna do in my life. And being like, you know, Indian conservative parents, they never owned a stock in their life, and they already warned me. They’re like, Oh, this is gambling. Don’t do it. I was like, I really want to try this, my passion. And they gave it to me, you know, $10,000 as a loan. And they said, Okay. And, you know, I heard my dad say to my mom, you know, in the other room, she he’s like, I’ll let him have it. He’s gonna lose it. Let him learn the lesson the hard way at this level. You know, it’s fine. And sure enough, I did learn my lesson because I had no idea what I was doing. You know, I, like most people actually, who enter the stock market, they rely on what they read online, or some article they read, or somebody gave them a tip, and then they have no concept of, like, how the stock market works, and then they buy the stock, and they learn the lesson the hard way. And when I lost that, yeah, for a moment, I was like, you know, feeling pretty bad, because, hey, how am I going to pay my parents back? B, what am I going to tell them? And then, C, how do I’m going to proceed in my career now that I have no money left, because trading is the business. You know this. They say in the casino, you got to be in the casino, you gotta be in it to win it. But if you don’t have any money left, you can’t bet. If you can’t bet, you can’t win. So that was the kind of the hardest journey. But then I also looked at it almost like a video game, you know, like in video games, you know, when things get tough or when you lose, you try to find a different way. Hey, what if I go around this corner or that corner? So I looked at it in that regard, I’m like, What did I do wrong? Like, obviously I didn’t know any, what I was doing. So I need to find mentors. I need to find people that I can learn from people already doing it. And then I started, like, writing articles online. I published a blog, and I was very honest in the blog, I said, Hey, I’m really passionate about the stock market. Done a lot of studies. I’ve done a lot of research, but I don’t have any money, right? But here’s my research, and I put it up on the blog. And then one day, I got hit up by like Yahoo Finance and some other publications. They’re like, you actually, articles are really good. You want to become a freelancer for us, and we’ll pay you, you know, 50, $100 or whatever, an article. In my mind I was like,  as a college student, 50 $100 I’m gonna write 10 of them. You know, wrote a lot of those articles to bring back that money that I had. And then with the second time I got the money, I was like, Okay, I have to learn to do this the right way, because there’s a difference in research and there’s a difference in actually applying and deploying your money. Very big difference. So then the second time around, I actually found mentors and learned to do it the right way.

Samantha Riley  4:00  

In your analogy, it’s like the mentors that the cheat codes.

Anmol Singh  4:04  

Yeah, absolutely, because they would have, if I went to them the first time around, they would have already told me the mistakes to avoid. That would have saved me, not only the time and the money and the kind of, the disappointment that I had in that phase, right? It felt like somebody punched you in the stomach. You feel like throwing up. You know, you can’t tell anybody that mistake. So, yeah, mentors, shortcut your time, and that’s kind of what I try to do for other people now, is like, Hey, here’s all the mistakes that I made in my first three years. I didn’t make any money my whole first year of trading. But year two, year three, I figured it out. And now, you know, 15 years into this game, I’m trying to do the same thing, what other people did for me when I started.

Samantha Riley  4:39  

Yeah, what, okay, this is really interesting. What you made those mistakes and things went wrong. How much do you believe you had to make those mistakes to learn those lessons? Because I’m a big believer in the, some of the mistakes that we make are bigger lessons than you can learn from anywhere like you make a big financial mistake, you will never make that mistake again, right? And it hits a bit different. Do you have that same belief?

Anmol Singh  5:15  

100%, and it’s much better to make mistakes early on and fast, because those mistakes don’t cost you much when you’re starting out right. It could have only cost $10,000 but if I never learned those lessons of risk management, money management, and I made those mistakes now, that’d be millions of dollars on the line. So it’s way better to do those mistakes now and actually write about this in my book. The last chapter of the book is called The silver lining, how everything is happening. You know, for you, and it’s all a lesson. You just got to make sure you learn the lessons. I almost call it like, Okay, I just paid the tuition to the stock market to learn my lessons, right? And now it gave me the lessons that I’m now applying and my biggest lessons in life have been those lessons where, in the moment, it feels like everything’s falling apart, nothing seems to be going my way. And then looking back now, I’m like, those were the greatest teachers, and in the moment, you can’t connect the dots. You can only connect the dots. Looking back, in the moment, it’ll feel like the worst thing ever. And I always looked at it like, oh, that’s the personal development cliche people say happens for you, blah, blah. And then I realized, looking back at my life, everything was the learning lesson, and it all did happen for me, but you can only connect the dots looking back.

Samantha Riley  6:21  

Yeah, I just want to mention that the book that you’re talking about is prepping for success. We’re going to talk about it more at ]the end of the episode, but I just want to close that loop, in case people are thinking, what was he talking about? How has trading shaped your ability or those kind of early lessons to make decisions quickly in business, or has it shaped your decision making process?

Anmol Singh  6:53  

Yeah, it’s been huge. Because, you know, trading is the biggest personal mirror you can ever get, because it’s me and the computer. There’s no colleagues, there’s no office politics, there’s no suppliers or vendors or, you know, people dictating my results. It’s literally how me and the computer interact with each other. There’s no third party influencing my results. So that teaches you self accountability and being able to take responsibility for everything you do, all the actions, because in trading, there’s nobody you can blame. You can’t blame it on your boss, your colleagues. You are the boss. And I think the hardest thing for traders, which is very similar to entrepreneurship and being in business, is the self accountability part. Because growing up, you know, our parents are telling us what to do, then you go to school, your teachers are telling you what to do. Then you go to college, your professors are telling you what to do, and then you go get a job, your manager, your supervisor, they’re going to tell you what to do. But when you are an entrepreneur, you’re running your own business, you’re a trader or investor, nobody is going to tell you what to do. You have to tell yourself what to do every single day, or what the right thing to do is. So you got to be good at coaching, even if it’s not coaching for others, but to be able to coach yourself into doing the right things that need to be done. So it’s the biggest lesson, and it applies across the board in all my other business ventures as well, is the ability to wake up and tell yourself what to do for today, because nobody’s going to tell you. And there’s also no consequences. Like in a job, if you don’t do something, there’s a consequence. The boss is going to come at you, supervisor is going to say, hey, what about this deadline? You didn’t meet it? In business, as an entrepreneur, we have to meet our own deadlines, right? So the ability to, like, push yourself and be your own boss is art that it’s a little bit harder for a lot of people to learn, because I’ve seen a lot of my coaching students that come in to go teaching them the concept of risk, because in a job environment, they’ve never had to risk their own money to make money, whereas in as a business owner, you got to be putting money in your own ads, right? You got to be putting your own money. So the concept of risk to master that in conjunction with the self accountability, is the biggest piece of being an entrepreneur. And I think of trading is like an entrepreneurial venture, because all it was was me and the computer, and now we build something out of that. And so it’s a very similar approach to running a business.

Samantha Riley  9:02  

100%, and I think you were talking before about finding the lesson, and when you put that with the accountability piece, that is definitely what I notice in the people that are going to do well in business, versus the people that are just going to fizzle off to nothing, essentially, because someone is going to be successful. Knows that things are going to go wrong, like you can’t be in business and something’s not going to go wrong. And, you know, I remember Stephen Bartlett telling me, Sam, like, 10 things that you do, eight of them aren’t going to work, so you just got to do them faster, because they’re going to go wrong anyway. So you know that ability to find the lesson, like, why it went wrong, and not turn it on yourself and say, Oh, I’m terrible, I’m not good enough, is really, really important. It’s just like, Okay, that didn’t work. Why? What do I need to do differently? What needs to change? What data do I have? And it’s about almost like you do want to feel but there needs to be that really fast decision making. So how did you shape your ability to make decisions quickly, like that, so that you can take the lesson and move quickly?

Anmol Singh  10:19  

Yeah, I think exactly what you said is like you take a piece of information, and as soon as you take that piece of information, what most people will do is they’ll go on to the next podcast or the next video course or the next mastermind, and they’ll keep being stuck in what I call the learning loop, where they always feel like they want to learn more, learn more, and they’re trying to have get it perfect. But it’s better to like an iPhone, launch the iPhone and update it later. So the faster they need to do is how quickly you can go through the cycle of taking in information, applying it, learning the lessons from you, applying it, tweaking it, and then moving on. And then the quicker you can go through those circles of cycles, the faster you’re going to get to your goals. Most people either this, get stuck in the learning, or they learn they apply it, it didn’t work. And they’re like, Oh, it didn’t work. And then they go back, rather than learn the lessons, move on and go through those cycles as fast as you can. That’s how the biggest businesses in the world have progressed. And you have to have a mentality, I say like, You got to be like, AI, right? So if you give AI a task to do, it’s not going to say, oh, but what if I’m not good enough? What if it’s not working for me? It’s just going to take the information you give it, and it’s going to say, if this, then that right, if this happens, then I’m going to do this. If that happens, I’m going to do that. So you got to almost think like AI, rather than why did it happen to me? No, just take the lessons and continue on to that journey of the cycle. So I think that’s, the fastest people go through that the better. And the biggest businesses, if you take a look at Tesla or Apple or the biggest business in the world, they take the information, they reiterate really fastly. So the quicker the cycle moves, the faster your business moves.

Samantha Riley  11:51  

Yeah, and I think you mentioned then all like, why did this happen to me? One of the biggest shifts for me happened when I and I can’t Byron Katie said it life doesn’t happen to you, it happens for you. So and you mentioned that just then as well, it’s really important to think that, because it’s not happening to you, it’s happening for you. So just get those lessons really quickly. But some of those lessons are harder than others. Some of them are little, tiny lessons, and that’s really easy to move through. Some of the lessons can be devastating. They can cost you a lot of money, or they can, you know, you can really take a personal hit. So what are the top mental habits that you’ve built to stay calm in those more chaotic times?

Anmol Singh  12:41  

So I use what Stan Professor Carol Dweck talks about in her book, mindset, right? The growth mindset of like, not what’s happening or why did it happen, or what’s going wrong. Okay, shift it to reframe it to, what am I going to do about it? How are we going to fix it? How are we going to overcome it? So the way I use it in my business, with my team is like my team knows, anytime they come with like an issue or a challenge or problem, it has to be accompanied by three potential ways you could solve it. So then they come to me with a problem, hey, this isn’t working well, but here’s potentially three ways we can do it. And then I can go over, look at okay, try number two, right now, right or try number three. And then that way they quickly move through the cycle. And maybe next week they come back and say, Okay, step three didn’t really perform well, I’m like, Okay, let’s try step one, and we’ll just keep reframing into Okay, what am I going to do about it, rather than what’s happening? And going back to my video game days, I always go back to that. It’s like, you know, when you, you know, you cross a level in a video game right? Then things get tough. That’s how life is. If things are getting tough, that means you’re leveling up. You’re going to another level, so you can have a new set of challenges. So you have to build your character in the video game up to the level to handle those challenges. And you do that through being productive, to mental resilience and, more importantly, to living with integrity, which is living and honoring your word. Do what you said you’re going to do and do it when you said you’re going to do it, and do it because it’s the right thing to do, whether you feel like it or not. So anytime my team comes to me and say, Hey, okay, we were supposed to meet this deadline, we’re not able to meet it, I’m like, okay, great. Well, what now? What are we putting in place to ensure the next deadline gets met, right? So they have to have something concrete that they’re going to put in place. So a story about my life was like a year ago, like, you know, maybe in two, three years ago, I was chasing, like, the business dream, the money dream, and I had all of that, but my health was a complete mess, right? I wasn’t working out. I was not eating healthy. I was traveling literally every single week, and then I ruined my health. And I said to myself, all right, I’m gonna start working out from tomorrow, and then tomorrow comes, but it’s Friday, so you’re like, oh Monday, and then Monday comes, but it’s like the 28th of the month, all right, I’m gonna start from the first of next month, and just like that, you eventually push it off to the New Year’s, and then years just kind of went by. And I noticed, okay, there was a lack of integrity in my own life. So I first realized that I own it, and then I say, okay, apologizing for that is not gonna fix it. Oh, I’m not gonna do it again. No, you will do it. /rght? We’re humans. So what am I putting in place to ensure that that gets handled? So for me, that looked like, Okay, getting a personal trainer. He shows up at my house the same time, same day, so then automatically, naturally, I work out I’m not going to send them back, right? Or when it comes to food, it was like a meal delivery service or getting a chef to cook your meals. So now that I handled that. So I put things in place to ensure that my lack of willpower in that moment is not going to take me away from the goal. So what are you putting in place to tackle those challenges? Because it will happen again. It’s human nature, so we have to put things in place.

Samantha Riley  15:36  

What are some of the things that you’ve put in place in your business? Just for some examples. 

Anmol Singh  15:43  

So with business, one of them I mentioned with the team has to accompany a problem with three potential solutions, right? So that gets them thinking in that frame of mind. And then B me leading with integrity, meaning, if they give me a task, hey, I’m well, we’re trying to launch this new Facebook ad thing. We need a video from you to do this. Then I’m like, okay, when do you need it by? They’ll give me a date, and I will deliver it by that date. So then I’m leading by example, so that they know next time they give me a deadline, I’m expecting the exact same thing. And then they deliver it to me on time as well. So I think that has a couple of the things have set in place. And then we also write down, like our six needle moving things every week as a team. And then I do it personally for myself every day, right? So every night, I write down. So after we get off the podcast, I’m going to sit down, I’m going to write down and plan my tomorrow and say, Okay, what are the six needle moving things I need to do in my own business to move the needle forward. And then, so tomorrow I wake up, I don’t have to think what my task list for today is, what should I work on today? Because you’ve already lost the day if you wake up and think about that, whereas I’ve already planned the night before, and all of those six things will assign a time slot on my calendar, and I just go one by one through that. And some days I’ll finish those six things by 12 noon, right? And then I have all the rest of the day to guilt free, spend as much as I like. Some days I’m going to be in front of my computer till 11pm finishing those six things. But until those six things get done. I don’t look at my emails. I don’t look at anything else. So that keeps the needle moving forward, day to day, week to week.

Samantha Riley  17:08  

I love that. Do you have a framework to choose those needle moving activities?

Anmol Singh  17:13  

Yeah. So I always tell people like, you know, pick two or three that are like professional tasks related to your business, and maybe pick one or two, like personal tasks. So for me, let’s say it’s health, or for some people, it might be date nights or relationships or building a community or touching base with friends. So I try to have, like, at least a balance between three personal tasks and, like, three business tasks. Sometimes there could be four or two, but I try to have at least one or two personal tasks. Now if, let’s say I’m putting working out every single day on my six needle moving things, right? But for someone, let’s say, who loves working out, that’s not really a needle moving thing, because you’re already going to do it anyway, naturally. Yeah, right. So don’t put the easy stuff in there. Put the stuff that you don’t naturally feel like doing or don’t want to do. And if you do that task, let’s say consecutively for a month, then I consider that as now that’s become a habit. So now that cannot go into the sixth thing. Now that’s a habit. You do that anyway, and you replace that with another new thing. And I think just by doing that has been the biggest productivity game changer.

Samantha Riley  18:15  

I love that. I really love that so much. What’s one belief that holds people back from making those decisions, where sometimes it’s not even in someone’s awareness, maybe it is and they’re they have like a maybe they’re afraid to do something because it’s so far out of their comfort zone. How? How do, though, how do we get that awareness and B, then how do we flip it and make sure those needle movers are on the list?

Anmol Singh  18:50  

Yeah, I personally think deep down, if people really think about it, they are pretty much aware of what they need to be doing. They just have to own up to it. So every time I do this exercise, I’m like, All right, everybody, close your eyes and think about, Okay, that one thing that you’ve been saying you’re gonna do that, you haven’t done something, you’ve been putting off. The first thing that comes to your mind, that’s the right thing, that’s the one to focus on. And everybody usually has that one thing that they’ve been putting off. Like you, like me. Probably know people who in 2019 said, I want to start my podcast, I want to start my business. I want to start the side gig. I just don’t have the time. I’m so busy with my job. And then comes 2020. You have all the time in the world to do exactly that, and you still didn’t do it. So there’s a disconnect between what our words are saying we want and what our actions are showing us. So the moment we can learn to bridge that gap between our word and our actions, that’s when you start living life by design, rather than by default. So step one is realise it. Step two, own up to it. And then step three, don’t apologize for it. Just say, okay, it happened. I acknowledge it. Now here’s what I’m putting in place to ensure that doesn’t happen again, and creating that self accountability or discipline, because I think a lot of people are waiting for permission from somebody. Or for somebody to come and tell them what to do, but deep down already know what the right thing to do is they just have to create the discipline in a way to do that. And I think when life gets challenging, when you’re forced into that position, then you really get that. I think there’s a deep down why that a lot of successful people that I know have, whether it’s proving it to somebody or somebody said something to them early on in the childhood, and then they kind of hold on to that, and it’s okay to use that for a time period to build what you want to build, but then eventually have to learn to let that go and start to do it for yourself. But I think deep down, is taking some time off your devices and like, really sitting with yourself and really thinking about, what are some of the things that I’ve been saying I’m going to do or I wanted to do. And if you don’t come up with anything, ask five of your closest friends or family members What’s something I have been saying, you’ll get answers. You might not want to hear it, but you will get it.

Samantha Riley  20:49  

Yes, yeah, I like that. How often do you take time out to do that thinking? Because I know, you know, Bill Gates takes a week off at a time, and, you know, he takes all his books away from him and just, you know, uses that time. I think they call it deep thinking time, where it’s just like, really pulling back, how often do you do that, and what importance do you place on that?

Anmol Singh  21:13  

So I have tackled that in three different ways. So one, I literally do it every night. So for me, it looks like when I wind down my work routine. It’s, you know, dark now it’s, you know, winding down time. I’ll put on my headphones, usually instrumental music, and I just kind of sit with my own thoughts, but not like most people where they’d have the headphones, but they’re also browsing their devices. That’s not the way to do it. You put on some nice instrumental music, you sit by your window, and you just start thinking about, you know, your day, or how it went. And then the other thing I do is I have another journal that I created. It’s called the success journal, which is accompanied to the book. So in that journal, every morning, first, I’ll start the day with gratitude. So I’ll write down what am I grateful for, right? And then I’ll write down what could make today a great day, and I’ll write that down. And then, end the evening, I do the same thing. I do a reflection on, okay, what went great today, right? So again, ending the day with gratitude. And then what could have done better today? Where could I have shown up better? I’ll write that down, and then I’ll write down, okay, what are the six needle moving things that I need to do tomorrow? And then I’ll schedule that on my calendar, and that’s it. It literally takes five minutes a day to fill both the morning and evening sections out of the journal, and that meets the it creates a habit, and you get all the scientific benefits of gratitude and journaling that most people know that there are benefits, but they still don’t do it, because most people, you buy a diary and do I do what their diary? It’s hard to journal. Gives you prompts. It makes it a lot easier. So that’s one way. The other way is, I’ll do that. Maybe, you know, it’s not a fixed timeline, but whenever I feel like I need a break, right? If I feel like, okay, it’s been three, four months, I need a little time out, then I’ll drive up here in New York, up to the Catskill Mountains, and there I’ll get, like, a nice little cabin, and I’ll just take a couple books, some music, and that’s my downtime. I’ll just go on a Friday, come back on a Sunday or Monday, and that recharge in nature, in the woods, just getting the cabin is probably for me, that’s my downtime. And yeah, and the third is like, I travel a lot, so anytime on the airline, it’s like audiobooks and me for that time period.

Samantha Riley  23:16  

I love that. And I think that I’m very similar in that I’m similar in that I take the time out, but I’m not quite as methodical as you, but I can definitely acknowledge it or recognize, like, Oh, I’m starting to almost get into a pattern of just like chasing my tail. And it’s like, I’ve gotta stop, I’ve gotta get away from devices, and I’ve gotta just get away and, like, empty my mind. Because we don’t come up with new ideas, and we don’t come up with new, creative ways to do things when we think our way through them, it’s like, actually, when we turn off our mind that it comes through, it’s like, we have to switch off. You know, I have crazy ideas when I’m in the shower or when I’m driving or when I’m going for a walk, it’s not when I’m sitting at my desk, going, alright, how am I going to work through this? Like, yeah, sure. Sometimes, you know, when I’m sitting at my desk, I’ll walk through things, but it’s in those other times where something different will drop in. So I think that that’s so important to take that time out.

Anmol Singh  24:23  

Yeah, and it’s great for your mindset, too. Because one of the things that stuck with me, I don’t know who said it, somebody told me this many years ago, and it just stuck with me is like, you know, anytime you get a negative thought or a, you know, anxious feeling or doubt, never trust a thought that you had indoors, right? Best thing that stuck with me forever. So anytime I feel anxious or things are not going well, I’m not going to trust any thought that happens indoors, right? And that’s when I know, okay, that’s maybe my time to go into nature. And I’ll go there, and then I’ll get different thoughts automatically, and then I know to trust that a lot more. So I think that’s the biggest thing to encounter like overwhelming or anxiety kind of feelings is like never trust or doubt or a negative thought indoors.

Samantha Riley  25:05  

I’ve never heard that, but it makes so much sense, the way that I know that I’ll say to my husband, Oh, I feel like, really over-stimulated. We need to go camping because it’s just so I guess I thought it without even realizing what I’d been thinking. But I know that when I’m super overstimulated, it’s like we need to get out. We need to get into nature. We need to have no devices, just a campfire. You know, when it’s dark, it’s just, Oh, I love that. I’m never going to forget that. That’s so cool. You talk a lot about identity, what are some of the techniques that you’ve used to become the person who gets the results? Like you’ve talked a lot about some of them, but, but what about actually, you know, a lot of people say it’s, it’s being that person before you are that person. Can you take us through your process there?

Anmol Singh  26:02  

Yeah, there’s a couple of ways you do that. So first, it starts with, like, determining my values, right? So what are my values that I want? There’s two different value sets. So one is the values that we want and the values we want to cultivate in ourselves, right? So we write those down, let’s Okay. I want to be, you know, productive, I want to be confident. I want to be this, and then you write down what are your values showing right now? Like, what your values actually are? And that’s a hard one for most people, so it takes a lot of line of questioning to get that out of them. What are you actually, values now? So somebody might say, Okay, I value wealth. I value money. I’m like, Okay, how much do you save? How much do you invest? They’re like, I don’t I’m like, so Okay, so that’s a value that you want to have, but that’s not the value you have. So then I get them to write down 10 benefits of having that value right, and then they write down 10 negatives of having the current value that they have. And in the process of doing that, they will start moving, and they start seeing the disconnect between the values they want and they have. So I think that’s number one. And then you know, what’s the top of your value? So I’ll go through them. Okay, what do you value? They’ll give me a list of five things, and I’ll go through each one of them. Is this more valuable than this? Is this more valuable than that? And keep going through until they rank it in order. Now they have values. Now that makes decision making super clear, because anytime I am faced with a tough decision in my life, I’m not sure where to decide. I’m like, which decision aligns with these values, that’s it. And it just makes the decision making really quickly. So I think that’s one step. And in terms of building your identity, the second step is visualizing. So you close your eyes and imagine the ideal version of you, and then there’s a line of questioning there too, like, what is the ideal version of you look like? You know? What does it feel like? What’s it wearing right now? What’s it dressed like, right? And then, what if you were a third person observer, like floating up here and looking at your ideal self right now? Working? What’s it doing like? How is it living its life? And then we get them to write all of these things down, and then you start to incorporate what that ideal version of you would be doing. So the ideal version looks like this, okay, so to get that, he’s probably eating healthier. What’s he eating, or what’s she eating, or what’s she doing for her workout? And kind of reverse engineering what the ideal version of you would be doing, and then putting that into your six things, and putting that into your calendar, and in short enough time, six months, 12 months, if you keep living like that, you’re going to be much closer to that ideal version of yourself.

Samantha Riley  28:21  

Love that so much. Now you’re talking a lot about putting systems in place, essentially, so that you can stay on top of your game. There are some times in business, in trading, where you take a real big hit and things can feel really personal. So how do you like look after yourself, or how do you not let your emotions cost you and lose you when those big hits are happening?

Anmol Singh  28:55  

Yeah, so I think first thing I always say is like, you know who whatever the reason was, like, if you really own your responsibility, then I take responsibility for everything, no matter, even if it is not mine, but it’s like, I take it anyway, because as long as you put it on external circumstances, other people, you’ve just given your power away, and there’s nothing you can do about it, because now you’re a victim. Now you’re the victim energy. You’re gonna stay there. So even if I know that somebody did me wrong, or whatever, like, I’ll still own up to that, because, well, who pushed the button, who took the trade, who took the investment, or who did the deal with them, right? Why didn’t you not read the contract right? All those things. So that’s all on me. So I take the ownership, because now I have the power. I’m not giving my power away. I’m not a victim, you know, the person in charge, and I make those decisions, and I could choose to make a different decision going forward. And you know, some of the time, sometimes you need to feel it too. That’s when I would probably go out for a walk, or go out in nature and, like, get some perspective on myself and my life. And then they all came down to, well, I asked for it because, like, if I wanted this in my life, then I, if you want success, then you got to know the cost of success. You. Right? You’re taking responsibility. And yeah, I think it just comes with extreme like ownership, which talks about in his book, as well as taking responsibility, taking ownership, and then including frameworks from Carol Black’s book. Okay, what are we going to do about it? Now, it’s already happened. It’s already done. Either we can sit here in this victim energy and stay here forever nothing’s going to change, or I can try a different thing, and maybe things change. So the better road to take, one road as I keep going the victim energy, things are gonna stay the same, probably gonna get worse. Or I take a different road, it might still not work, but there’s a chance on this road that it might work, so might as well think the better decision. So, but yeah, I think I know a lot of people get stuck in that energy too, you know, but I think in that moment, you need to take some time off, get some perspective and know, you signed up for this, right? Whatever, anything good in life comes with challenges and obstacles. So did you sign up for it? Are you ready for it or not? And it’s okay if you’re not, but to get yourself to be mentally resilient is the biggest key there.

Samantha Riley  31:01  

Now at the beginning of the interview, you talked about your book, Prepping for Success. What inspired you to write that book?

Anmol Singh  31:09  

I originally wrote it for myself. You know, I wrote it on things that I need to do in my own life to get the level of success that I wanted. So it’s originally notes to myself, like I was working a lot on myself, because trading will bring out the best in you. It could also bring out the worst in you when money is on the line. I mean, you could feel all spectrum of emotions, fear, greed, doubts, all those things. And I realised it was, trading was like the biggest personal development journey I’ve ever embarked on, and also had a lot to work to do with myself, too. I’ve always been a student of psychology, personal development and what moves people. And growing up as an introvert, I’ll always be like the person, sort of like in the conversation, but I’m kind of observing the conversation like I’m in it, the comic with the group, but I’m not the one engaging. I’m kind of observing. And I learned to kind of read patterns in people on why they do certain things, what moves them, what inspires them. And then I did originally for myself, because I was trying to get better myself, get myself out of my own introverted shell, and to be able to create, and what I wanted to create. So I wrote it for myself. Attended a lot of you know, you know, mastermind groups, courses, mentors, coaches, spiritual retreats, and I wrote it Okay. These are the 10 common things that I’ve learned that I need to do, and I actually went out and applied that, and then I got the level of success that I wrote it down. So then eventually I said, Okay, if I can, it works. It’s a framework now, so I could help a lot of people with that, because if they don’t have hundreds of 1000s of dollars that I’ve spent doing and learning all this information, hiring all these people, or even the time, even if they have the money, not the time that I went studying this, if I could break it down into just 10 keys for people that they can start applying, then they will absolutely start living life by design. So that was kind of the inspiration for that.

Samantha Riley  32:51  

I love that so much. Where can people go to get a copy of prepping for success?

Anmol Singh  32:59  

Yeah, I’d love to give your listeners a free copy of my book. And yeah, there could be a link in your description, but it’s just the website. Go anmol.net

Samantha Riley  33:09  

I love it. And yes, that link will definitely be below. And I love this so much because, you know, we’re taught that business is all about marketing and sales and systems, and it is, but if we don’t have the right mindset to be able to implement those or carry them through, then it’s all just, it’s all just, you know, information not being applied, right? And, you know, I see it so much that we all, we’re Hu we’re all human. We’re all living a human experience. No one, not any of us, can get it right 100% of the time. But I think being aware and understanding that we need to take those lessons and what those lessons can help us do to move forward is huge. And like I said, it’s, it’s the peace that I see between the people that are successful and the people that go, Yeah, this isn’t for me. So if someone’s listening now and they’re stuck in doubt or fear right now, some of those things that we’re talking about, what’s one small shift that they can make today that will move the needle?

Anmol Singh  34:16  

I think, a couple things. So one of them, what you just mentioned, is like, you know, your systems are only as good as your ability to actually stick to and follow it right, and your ability to stick to and follow it is only as good as how you persevere when things are not working right. That’s the thing, because when things are working great, it’s so easy to enjoy our business, everything’s going great. Our ads are converting, everything’s awesome when things not working, that’s your ability, in that moment, to stay yourself in the right direction is one of the biggest keys. And it starts with what we talked about earlier in the episode. Is the integrity piece, like honoring your word, no matter your spiritual beliefs or your religious beliefs. In the Bible, it says the beginning there was the word, let your yes be yes, let your no be No. You go back to the Hindu traditions in the Gita. It talks about. Sat there the truth of your word. Marcus, Aurelius, stoicism, Buddhism, talks about honoring your word. So if you start living just with this one little piece of nugget, which is just make sure whatever words you come out of your mouth, you really mean it, and you really act on it, otherwise, don’t even say it, because what happens is, when we say we’re going to do something we don’t, then that creates low self esteem. Then low self esteem leads to low self confidence, and then low self confidence is how you show up in your day to day life. And the only way to break that cycle is to be really conscious of the words you’re saying and really make sure you mean it. Otherwise don’t. It’s better not to even say it, because what happens is, when we say you want to do something, and we don’t, next time you set a goal, your unconscious mind is like, you’re full of it. You’re not going to do it, you know, you’re just going to push it. You’re going to push you’re going to push it to next Monday, and that little micro negotiations we make with ourselves, I’ll do it next week. We’re just pushing the buck forward on our own goals. So honoring your word is the biggest thing, piece of advice, combined with not getting stuck in the learning loop. You know, people brag online these days. How many books I’ve read, I’ve done so much learning, I’m like, okay, but your life doesn’t demonstrate you taking action on any of that, like you’ve learned all of this information. But why are you not applying it then? So every time you learn something, read something like I’ll read a chapter of a book, and first thing I’ll do is I’ll close it and it’s okay, what did I actually learn? And how does that apply into my life only then I move on to the next chapter by answering those questions. And that’s kind of how I formatted my book. Each chapter ends with like, okay, here are the five things you need to do this week before you move on to the next chapter, because more information is not going to change your life, right? Application is what’s going to change your life. True. Knowledge is applied knowledge. Otherwise you’re just hoarding information.

Samantha Riley  36:42  

I love that so much. I’ve loved this conversation and more. Thank you so much for coming on the show and sharing your insights and the things that you’re passionate about and you love it. Really appreciated this conversation. 

Anmol Singh  36:55  

Thanks for having me. It’s great chatting with you.

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